A BETTER VERSION OF YOU

english version below
Postarea aceasta e in mare parte scrisa pentru mine acum mult timp. Am alcatuit lista asta repede, in vreo 10 minute, ca sa scap de povara zilelor in care “nimic nu merge bine”. I wrote this post for myself, a long time ago. It’s a list that I’ve put together quickly, in about 10 minutes, to take my mind off things when “Nothing good ever happens”.

Relax

  1. Gandeste pozitiv si nu te mai plange. Nu ai cum sa schimbi tu comportamentul oamenilor care nu acorda prioritate la coborarea sau la urcarea in metrou sau care se bat pe scaune in autobuz. E imposibil! Asta e mentalitatea romanului. Nu ai cum sa alungi ploaia si nici nu ai cum sa il educi pe cocalarul de la volan care nu stie sa conduca … sau sa vorbeasca civilizat.
  2. Nu mai barfi alti oameni. Ce daca alegerile unui fost coleg te uimesc, e viata lui – poate sa faca ce vrea cu ea. Colega de birou nu si-a asortat  pantofii cu geanta? Asa si, pe bune? Altele sunt prioritatile in viata asta.
  3. Bucura-te sincer de reusitele prietenilor tai. De cate ori nu ti s-a intamplat sa invidiezi pe cineva pentru o marire sau o pentru ca ai vazut poze pe facebook dintr-o excursie de vis. Bucura-te pentru ei, starea lor buna de spirit te influenteza si pe tine atunci cand iesiti impreuna.
  4. Zambeste mai des. O sa pari mai deschisa si mai abordabila. Persoana careia ii ceri ajutorul se va purta mai frumos daca ii zambesti in timp ce ii adresezi intrebarea. Stii vorba aia … maine poate fi mai rau. Deci … zambeste!
  5. Ajuta alti oameni … macar cu un sfat sau cu o incurajare, daca nu poti face mai mult. Fii mereu optimista si nu mai pune mereu raul inainte.
  6. Concentreaza-te pe ce ai de facut. Lasa de-o parte lucrurile care iti atrag atentia. Deschide facebook-ul cel mult 10 minute pe ora, nu sta mereu cu fereastra deschisa, mesajele si noile postari iti vor distrage atentia.
  7. Gaseste lucrurile care iti plac la jobul tau. Nu multi putem spune ca avm serviciul perfect, dar cu siguranta ne simtim mai bine atunci cand ne concentram pe partile frumoase. Dimineata nu te mai gandi “Aoleu! Iar trebuie sa ma duc acolo!” Sigur gasesti macar un lucru care sa iti placa. Poate te intelegi bine cu o colega pe care abia astepti sa o vezi, poate cafeaua este foarte buna sau poate ca de la biroul tau ai o priveliste senzationala. Sau pur si simplu programul de lucru este unul avantajos si ai beneficii. Si daca tot suntem la capitolul birou … nu lucra in dezordine. Organizeaza-ti spatiul de lucru si iti va fi mult mai usor sa se concentrezi pe ce e cu adevarat important.
  8. Comunica mai mult cu ceilati oameni si fii tu insuti. Nu mai sta ursuza la birou. Ridica-te si fa cativa pasi, intra in vorba cu colegii care discuta despre un concert, un film sau o vacanta; iti vei face viata mai usoara si ziua va trece mai repede. Nu te mai perde in sirul lung de mailuri, sau in timeline-ul facebook. Mai bine asculta ce se intampla in jurul tau, saluta oamenii care intra in birou si fii deschisa cu ei.
  9. Vezi jumatatea plina a paharului. Probleme vom avea mereu si daca nu avem … ni le facem noi cu manutele noastre. Uneori, rezolvarea lor  e chiar in fata ochilor nostri.
  10. Elimina prietenii toxici. Serios, oamenii care nu respecta cel putin un punct din lista asta de aici nu au ce cauta in viata ta. Te trag in jos si te vor umple de energie negativa. Ai nevoie de optimisti in jurul tau; oameni care sa te faca sa te autodepasesti.

Aici se incheie lista mea, eu incerc sa imi urmez singura sfatul, desi poate uneori imi e greu. Oricum, daca la un moment dat aveti nevoie sa va “contorizati” fericirea, va recomand testul de aici.

  1. Think positive and stop complaining! You can’t change the behavior of the people who don’t know the basic rules of etiquette in the metro, or who would kill for a seat on the bus. That’s impossible! It’s how their minds work. You can’t chase off rain and you can’t educate the rednecks that can’t drive.
  2.  Stop talking behind people. What if the life choices of your former colleague baffle you? It’s his life, he can do whatever he wants. Your work colleague didn’t match her shoes with her bag? So what! We have other priorities in our life.
  3.  Truly enjoy the success of your friends. How many times you envied someone for a raise or a dream vacation? Be happy for them, their state of mind also influences you when you are around them.
  4. Smile more often. You will appear more open. Ask for someone’s help with a smile on your face. You’ll only win with this attitude. You know … tomorrow can be worse so … smile!
  5. Help other people, with a good word or with an advice, if you can’t do more. Always be optimistic and stop thinking only about the bad things in life.
  6.  Focus on your task at hand and get rid of all distractions. Check your Facebook timeline for only 10 minutes each hour, don’t leave the tab open. The messages and notifications will keep you from doing your job.
  7. Find pleasure in your work. Most of us can’t say we’re blessed with the ideal job, but we’ll feel better if we look at the bright side. In the morning, don’t say to yourself: “Oh no, I have to go back there AGAIN!” For sure you can find at least one thing you enjoy. Maybe you can’t wait to meet with a colleague, maybe the coffee is really tasty or maybe you have an office with a killer view or great working hours and benefits. And while we’re at this chapter … please keep an organized desk. It will be easier to focus on what really matters.
  8. Communicate with others around you and be yourself. Don’t frown at your desk. Get up and make some steps, chat with your colleagues. They could be talking about a concert, a movie or a vacation. You’ll make your life easier and the day will pass quicker. Don’t remain focused only on your email thread or on your Facebook timeline. Listen to what’s going on around you, say hi to the people coming in your office and be an open person.
  9.  Always see the full side of the glass. We’ll always have problems, and if we don’t then we’ll create them in our minds. Sometimes, the answer is right in front of us.
  10. Say bye-bye to your toxic friends. The people that don’t follow at least one rule from this list are bad for you and filled with negative energy. You need an optimistic approach; people should make you want to become a better you.

That’s my list, I always try to follow my own advice, even if it can seem hard sometimes. If you ever need to measure your happiness level, then try this test.

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